Obituary of Charlotte Dello Iacono

Charlotte Dello Iacono nee Hotzler predeceased by her husband Louis Dello Iacono, her father Kurt Hotzler, her mother Josephine Hotzler nee Bianco, her sister’s Agnes Di Chiara and Loretta Lapajenko, her grandson Royce Louis Dello Iacono, her son-in-law Charles Frazer, her nieces Jodi Richard nee Di Chiara & Tiffany Bianca Hotzler and her nephew Andrew Joseph Delloiacono.   She leaves her children Andrea Frazer, Craig, Florence Gredder (Joseph), Lawrence, Louis and William (Mary).  Her grandchildren Charlotte Frazer Farley (Matthew), James Frazer (Catherine), Charles “Bear” Frazer, Joseph & Kyle Gredder (Erin), Crystalynn, Thomas and Dale. Her great grandchildren Ridley & Wesley Frazer, Liam and Griffin Farley. As well as her brother Russel Hotzler (Sabina), Nieces and nephews Michele, Ernest, Holly, Johnny, Debbie, Alfred, Florence, Christopher, Kirsten, Alexis, Brittany and countless friends whose heart she touched.

It was love at first sight when our parents met and they married on April 10th, 1955. They were married for 66 years when our father passed on August 29^th,2021. Together they raised six children and lived a wonderful life together.

Our mother was an amazing woman who at the age of 93 was reading 3 newspapers a day and books.  Our mother reading books is a memory we have since we were born.  She always had a book in her hand.  She loved reading.  One day Andrea put her books in the freezer just to hide them from her as a playful joke.  There was no stopping her from reading as well as no stopping her from food shopping.   Her car in the circle driveway was a landmark to everyone who knew her.  Either they’d see her pulling in or pulling out.   Bearing in mind that if you love to cook then you must love to food shop as well.  Her last day of driving was in March 2024, she was 93 years old.  She was still capable of driving but it was the difficulty getting in and out of the car and back into the house as well as the Doctor calling her a naughty girl when he learned she was still driving.  At which time he told her to turn in her keys.   Her car was like a crutch to her, it was her freedom she’d get in slide in her disco cassette raise the volume and off she went.

She was a fantastic cook as everyone can attest to.  From baking cakes, pies, cookies to gourmet meals that were large enough to feed a small army.  She was full on with tradition.  Each Holiday had to have specific items and she kept a list and would refer to it making sure she did not miss a thing.  Our home at 84 Nassau Boulevard was the soul of our family for 55 years.  It was there that we’d gather and celebrate.  Extending the dining room table with more tables until there were enough place settings for our expected guests.

Mom loved nature.  She fed the birds, rabbits, squirrels and yes, the possum and raccoons.  On her property you’d spot the roundest robins you have ever seen; raccoons that look like the size of small dogs and rabbit families.  Like clock work every evening she’d prepare the bag of food that someone had to take and spread on the back lawn. She loved to garden and would have a bountiful vegetable garden in the backyard which I would plant each year for her as her Mother’s Day gift.  She had flowers all around her porch.  Was a member of the Garden City Garden Club where she learned how to display them beautifully.

She had a musical animal collection that she’d display under her Christmas tree each year and throughout the year on her piano top or fireplace mantel.  Anyone that was placed on the cocktail table was referred to as “in the hospital” as they needed their batteries replaced.  These little stuffed characters brought so much joy to her.  Her face and eyes would light up as they danced and sang.  She’d always say, “My father told me that one day the animals would talk.  He was right!”  

Other than being the most adorable person you’d ever meet she was extremely intelligent.  You could have long conversations with her about numerous topics.  It was always a pleasure whether in person or on the phone for over an hour with her. 

She loved to watch football and to play in the football pools.  She enjoyed hockey as well and of course she had her favorites and less favorable language for others.  She loved our father with all of her heart, when he passed in August 2021 he took a piece of her with him.  Not that she would let it show but we knew.  Then on Jan 5^th, 2024 she lost her dog Thor.  He was 14 years old and was her shadow.  Her heart broke on that day and it never healed. 

She was a generous woman who wrote donation checks out to countless organizations.  She loved Padre Pio, Jesus and God and had a strong faith.

She was a beacon of love, loyalty, and grace, she graced this world with her presence for 94 remarkable years.  On January 11^th, 2025 she passed away leaving behind a legacy that will continue to inspire for generations to come.